2019: The Year of #Value
2019: The Year of #Value
Melinda Gates—philanthropist, businesswoman, & all-around compassionate & kind human being—has a unique New Year’s tradition. Instead of creating a resolution for herself, she chooses a single word to capture her vision for the year ahead. For 2018, it was grace & you can flee from here & go to her article & read all about her amazingness.
The point is, I like the concept. I’m not against New Year’s resolutions, Michael & I are absolutely goal-driven individuals. We love the dopamine hit of accomplishments big & small, & both separately & together, we’re always pursuing something.
But for me, this year is a little different. We just achieved a huge goal: get TF out of Midland, Texas, she says, writing from her kitchen table in the Dominican Republic. So we’re here, & every day is a wonderful new learning experience. We’re also both still working full-time. It is, 100%, a privilege to be able to work remote. We work just as much, but for me especially, it is easier to mentally turn off work mode in our non-work hours here than it was at home.
But for me, work is still a struggle. I’m satisfied when I finish a project, but I haven’t felt fulfilled in a long time (career-wise). I’m engaged when I can mentor & train, but I am agitated when I have to fight to be heard. I am good at what I do, so I don’t like the idea of leaving what I’ve learned & experienced behind, but hell, maybe I could be good at other things too.
So my word for 2019 is going to be #value. (If it doesn’t have a hashtag, is it even a word?)
I want to learn to value myself. I know it sounds cheesy, but hey, it’s 2019 & women are allowed to like themselves now (mostly). #queenjameela
I want to respect & protect my own time, energy, effort, sleep, body (sorry about all that rum!), & creativity. My tendency to date has been to try to outwork my anxiety & pile to-do’s on my plate until I’m a 100% stressball, & that’s not #bestlife for me or my famil
For my day job, #value means providing 40 hours of value & then shifting focus to me & my fam. It means taking advantage of the distance of #remotelife to stay away from negativity & drama, setting boundaries where appropriate, & speaking up for what I need & want. Urrgghhh, it seems so intuitive, but it comes with a LEARNING CURVE.
#Value also involves paying more attention to the things that are important to me. Michael, kiddos, doggos, check! Being in the DR equals so. much. togetherness. & beach days every Saturday (thank God for babysitters). The DR also graces us with gorgeous views, lots of sunshine, & plenty of exercise, so 3 check, check, & checks on the self-care & #value front.
Finally, if I’m going to #value my time & energy & myself, I think I actually have to figure out what I want to be when I grow up (at least the next step).
Do you watch Jane the Virgin? Because: ehrmagherd, Jane the Virgin. #obsessed #teamrafael
No spoilers, there’s just this beautiful moment in Season 1 where Rafael – #teamrafaelFOREVAH – asks Jane what she wants to be, & she has a practical answer (teacher) & a brave answer (writer). & I feel that shit so hard. I have worked hard to be good at what I do, but the driving force has been praciticality for so long.
We still have $$$ goals to meet, the plan is not to run screaming from the day job. But 2019 is the year is to value & revive the parts of my creativity that I sacrificed in order to be oh-so-practical.
2019 is the year to be brave.
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